Sunday, January 30, 2011
Why is it that people who have been friends for years suddenly find the going tough when they get into a relationship?
Why is that people who are wonderful in the art of making and keeping old friends find it hard to get their relationship going?
Relationship as a concept may be similar to friendship but it is not the same thing. There are a number of differences which if not properly understood lead to the ultimate disaster.
To draw a corollary friendship between people is like the grass that grows in the wild. It can come up in the most unexpected places. No effort is needed to make it blossom and no rules are attached to the growth of the grass. Some blades of grass and some can be green. No one cares. Grass is just that grass. Grass may wither but even before you know it would be back.
Similarly friendship can take place between the most unexpected of partners. Usually you just click and need no extra effort from your side to make it got. You can be yourself and are not expected by anyone to behave in a particular manner. How you look and how you present yourself is insignificant. Friends are just friends. Friends may have some problems as well but usually they would be back together.
Relationship is altogether a different ball game. It is more like a manicured garden. Each item in it is expected to grow in a particular fashion. You need to put in effort to make them prosper without which it may wither an d never recover. The beauty of the garden is in it totality. One individual item may not look so beautiful.
In a relationship the two of you are in it. How you behave, what you do and how you do are all significant. You are not their just to have a good time but instead you are their coz you need the other person. You are dependent on the other person and the other person is dependent on you. You need to put in effort to cultivate the relationship. If not cared for the relationship would fall apart and you wouldn't even realize what happened.
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